Have you ever heard the term “a broken heart?” of course you have. Heartbreak! The one unfortunate part of human life. It is the one thing I think most people try to avoid at all costs. Heartbreak comes from more than just failed relationships. We feel heartbreak when we lose something that we love. That can be a relationship, friendship, family member, pet. You name it.
Heartbreak can bring not just mental pain, but physical pain as well.
I went to the hospital one night. My best friend came to my apartment to find me sitting in my closest unable to breathe. A hard-rapid stabbing pain followed every breath I drew. I was hyperventilating, and it seemed there was nothing I could do to stop it. As my friend looked on, she too, was scared and nervous. A sudden and sharp chest pain accompanied the lack of breath I could draw and my entire body went numb. Am I having a stroke? I thought to myself. Not possible. I’m only 22 years old. Suddenly, the room around me went dark. I opened my eyes to bright lights above my head. The sound of machines filled and voices. My friend who had watched the light fade from my eyes called 911. There I was, in the hospital, being told I had something called a panic attack.
Heartbreak is the pain that attacks us from all sides. Did you know your brain registers emotional and physical pain the same way? It’s hard to understand or sympathize with someone who feels the physical pain of heartbreak. It’s even harder to understand it when you are the person who is heartbroken.
Everything that glitters isn’t gold. Sometimes you have to leave!
The saying goes that people come into our lives for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. We often mix seasonal people up and give them lifetime expectations.
We laid in bed one night. An amazing book by Mark Manson called “The Suitable Art Of Not Giving A f*ck.” was in my hand. (I highly recommend it if you haven’t read it.) “Will we ever be in a relationship?” I asked him as I lifted a book a little higher, covering my face. After 10 seconds, I lowered the book. Maybe he didn’t hear me. However, that wasn’t the case. He heard me. I could tell by the way he was staring at me. “Well, we are already playing house,” I said as I watched his face for a reaction. He chuckled a bit before he finally answered. “We are all we are going to be for now.”
At this point, it has been 2 years. It would be 3 more years before my heart would fully break. Had I listened at that time, I could saved some pain. Nothing in life lasts forever. We often wish that this moment would last forever. That moment of peace and happiness. When you can look in their eyes and see nothing but your bright future. But we break the moment that seem to cease because when they are gone it is never the same. We hold on but why? Just as an addict waits for their next score, we crave that peace. But is it really peace? Learn when to walk out the door.
You will get over them.
“Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point to move forward.” ~C. S. Lewis
I sat at my desk at work, inches from tears. The only thing holding them back was the constant motion that passed my desk. In my heart and mind, the world had stopped. I was so broken. The world continued to move but I was standing still. I still had to work. My son still needed help with his homework. I wiped my face and pushed thought each day. The sun rose and set as the seconds of my life ticked away. I still hadn’t let go of anything. I couldn’t let go. I was drowning in heartbreak and allowing the pain to win. For me, a book started my healing journey. If you are interested in the book, click here. You have to start somewhere.
Even though we feel that life has stopped, it hasn’t, and it never will. Although it seems impossible at the time, you can move on past them and create a future that you want from yourself without them. This journey looks different for everyone. Please don’t compare your journeys to that of others. No two pains are the same.
Always remember
Forgiveness is strength!
There is life outside love!
Love yourself!
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